I was thinking today after reading David’s On Choosing A Wife. Usually, something like this gets me in a wistful mood, because I start missing Abbey and I start trying to figure out how to fix everything, only to come to the awful realization that I can’t fix anything and I just have to let it be. But David recently lost his six year old daughter Elena, and his blog Dear Elena is a love letter to her, telling her all the things she would have come to know and love during her life.

He talks about the first meeting between he and Kim, the woman who would go on to be his wife. There was a lot of disparity between them, a lot of family disagreements, which really resonated with me on many different levels. They even serve two different religions under the same roof.  They don’t question it, they simply do it — because they love each other, and isn’t that enough?  I would think so.

David points out that there isn’t only one single person that’s right for everyone; otherwise, what would be the odds of actually finding that person? I now believe, like David, that there’s many people who could be right for you, and with a lot of love, commitment, trust and patience, you can build something beautiful with the person you DO love. All it takes is recognition that your souls work well together, and something eternal can be built.

Maybe there isn’t a perfect someone for you. But maybe there IS a perfect someone for you, and it just takes work to create the beautiful thing you want so badly to believe in.  And when it all comes down to it, something like my personal wants and loves and the things I feel I must have seem so trivial when compared with losing a six year old daughter, or to someone like my amazing cousin Bre and her husband Billy, who are fighting with and for the most amazing little baby I have ever laid eyes on.  Things like Cade and little Elena have given me reason to believe that I am very selfish indeed, and I want nothing more than to stop thinking about myself and start giving back to others when they’ve given me for my entire life.